Capítulo Final
This is almost what happened. Only this love story took place in Sydney and the characters were not Mexicans. The Sandoval family is actually an Afghan Australian family. Nevertheless, the events are real and I really had the impression that my life turned into a telenovela and when things got worse to a Bollywood movie.
Things were to complicated to work. ‘When you’ll find the right person, everything will be simple’ I heard.
This was clearly not the case. Meddling mother in law, well meddling family in law I should say. Parenting a child who wasn’t mine (even though I love him). Visa/job situation. Her traumatic first marriage.
At first, I thought that these ordeals shouldn’t stop me. I should face them. A marriage isn’t just about good moments, it’s for better or worse. And this is where we were heading: marriage. The point wasn’t to ‘go out’. She even gave me a deadline for me to propose (see Episodio 2 – The Ultimatum).
The problem was that after our sixth month anniversary, I wasn’t sure if fighting all these hardships was worth it anymore. Every month there was a fight. At some point, I felt that she enjoyed provoking them. Consciously or unconsciously, I don’t know. Was it her personality? Was she so insecure that she had to provoke fights to be sure I will come back? I even came to the conclusion that she wanted someone who will make her suffer, that she had a self-destructive behaviour. Her mother, her brother, her ex-husband, they all were tough and controlling and maybe I was too nice for her. I’m sure Freud would have something to say about that.
The other theory was suggested by a friend of mine. I was telling him about these constant fights and that I was tired of it. Most of them were about me not being caring enough. Our final fight was about that. The day before our sixth month anniversary, she sent me an SMS. She got upset because my reply wasn’t long enough. Huh? After having told my friend the story, I started to question myself.
‘Maybe she’s right, I’m not caring enough.’
‘No I think it’s because of her mother. Now that she’s against your relationship, she’s pressuring her. That’s why she acts this way.’
The more I think about it, the more it makes sense. Maybe she sabotaged our relation because her mother’s approval was more important.
After two weeks of not speaking or seeing each other, I took off my relationship status on Facebook. It wasn’t final though. We could always have tried again. I just did it because, at this moment, it wasn’t making sense anymore.
To answer you, Azra, yes I was in love. Yes, I wanted to marry her.
So why is it the end of my telenovela/Bollywood movie? Because of this someone I mentioned in the last episode.
Who is it? Why her intervention changes everything? All the answers here.